Link: It Hurts

A few weeks ago, my mother died unexpectedly.
It's hard for me, but it's even harder to see my dad's pain.
Every morning when I sit with him in the kitchen and have breakfast, I can see this song in his eyes.


Thanks to Marty for linguistic advice and feedback in general.

Some technical information:
Style: HOLDING.STY

The band:
Bass: 3584
Drums: PopRock16ths + SkaSlow70sWesPerc
Guitars: 3231, 365, 3633, 3738
Piano: 1533 + yours truly

You can find the lyrics in the next post.

Title: It Hurts

(Verse 1)
One kitchen chair is empty now
The one you used to sit on
You always showed up with a smile
Like the first sunray after a long rainy day
Oh no, you are gone
Gone
Gone

(Bridge)
The clock down the stair
Is still ticking away the time
But for whom, if you're not there
You're not there

(Chorus 1)
It hurts
It hurts
It hurts to be left behind
It hurts
Oh, it hurts
It hurts to be the one
Who has to carry on

(Verse 2)
No one does prepare you for a moment like this
From a life full of joy, a life of bliss
It's over now
I can't go on
I don't know why
I should go on

(Pre)
Life is over without you
Without you

(Chorus 2)
It hurts
It hurts
It hurts to be left behind
It hurts
Oh, it hurts
It hurts to be the one
Who has to carry on

(Outro)
Oh, it hurts
It hurts
It hurts
Oh, I'm so angry and lost
It hurts

Brian,

SO very sorry for your loss.

Your song is pure, raw emotion laid out on the page.
Heartbreaking.

I wish you and your family... healing

Beautiful song, B.D.

My mom just passed away a few weeks ago too, December 1st. Different deal though, in her case it was a long, slow decline so we knew it was coming.

Thanks for the song, and all the best to you and your dad.

Brain, first sorry for your loss.

Second all I can say is WOW!
I can feel your pain.
That verse is so true.

Loved it.

Brian,

So very sorry to hear about your loss…

Your song is extremely moving. You and your family are in my thoughts.

Bob

Brian,

So sorry for your loss. My hearts goes out to you.

This so is beautiful. Is that you on vocals? It sounds really good. (If it is a synth it sounds incredibly real.)

I wish you comfort and healing in the days ahead, my friend.

Di and I wish you and your family strength and peace as the days come and go.

The vocal so vividly reveals the pain. You have captured the dark pit such a loss puts you in. A well-done song about a a very sad event.

Alan & Di

Very nice song. the voice is great
Laurent

BDT, I’m very sorry for your loss. Hopefully time will help to heal you and your family. Very nice song about a very sad time, Tom

Hello Brian
I am very sorry that you and your family are so sad now.
But as a musician you did the right thing. You wrote a song about it.
That's exactly what helped me to find my way out of the endless sadness.
And you know what? This must not have been the last song about your mother.
I hope that your sadness will soon give way to the joy of having had such a great mother.
She would definitely be very proud of you and wouldn't want you to be sad.

One sentence about your song:
You have really written an extremely emotional song that gives an idea of how you are feeling at the moment.
But where things end, something new begins and when I heard how fantastically you sang this song,
I really wonder why you have your songs sung by AI voices!!!

My brother Wolfgang and I wish you and your family a lot of strength
and all the best to get through these difficult times

Many greetings
Andi ;-)

The mark of a true poet: sums up the important message in a single word.
Thank you, Floyd.

Hi Brian.
I know how I felt when my mother died. RIP.
Your song feels real and brings back a memory for me.

Vic

Thank you for your nice words, Dave.
My condolences for your loss.
As I wrote in the lyrics, no one can really prepare you for something like this, no matter how it happens.

I'm so sorry for your loss ... the emotion and pain can be felt a mile away, in this one. No words, beside saying: beautiful, beautiful song. Wishing you peace.

What a great song to express how you feel now. Sorry for your loss, I can feel your pain in my heart. Those words are truly powerful and describe the loss so personally. Very emotional vocal performance.

All your songs are creative and speak to me, but this one speaks especially more.

Janne

Such an emotionally true song, I can feel the hurt.

My condolences and wishes for healing, acceptance and strength as time carries on.

My deepest condolences. This song really captures the open wound of loss. A superb write, and splendid vocals. So very, very nice...

Thank your for your kind words and listening to my song, Mario.
Much appreciated!

You know! The saddest part of life. What an extraordinary song, Brain. Such strong emotion. Your lyrics are perfect.

Thank you so much for listening and your kind words, Bob.
I really appreciate it.

Wow B.D., I don't know how you did it, but you did it masterfully. The emotion comes through with every syllable. I'm very sorry for your pain, your dad's pain and the loss of your mother. She has left behind a son who has now shared some of her memory with all of us, and I thank you for it. Hang in there. Eventually the sun will shine again, and as in your song, you will be able to see her smile like the first sunray after a long rainy day.

Brad

B.D.,

So sorry for your loss . . . so tough to lose a parent, tougher yet to lose a spouse. A sad tune . . . but for me, they always seem the best, simply because the emotion is real and true; happy songs rarely touch the soul in the same way. This is excellent . . . in all aspects from the write and the production.

So, the vocal is what takes this over the top for me . . . I know you typically use vocaloids, but that’s not what this is, is it? (There are breaths and pauses that I don’t associate with vocaloids). But regardless, a terrific vocal that makes this shine.

Good stuff

Deej

Hi, Brian.

I'm sorry for your loss.

Excellent write, good arrangement, solid vocals.

Good song, thanks for posting!

Thank you very much for listening and your wishes, David.
Much needed and appreciated

You have bared your soul, and all who listen to your song can feel your sorrow an pain.

All my best to you in your time of grief.

Sorry for your loss Brian. Excellent tribute. Heartful vocal and lyric. Loved the intro and loved when the band kicked in. Well done..

Many thanks for your kind wishes, Di and Alan.
I wish you both all the best too. I know your lives are not exactly easy these days.

Merci beaucoup, Laurent.
J'apprécie beaucoup.

You so beautifully expressed your loss and we, among so many, have felt such grief and witnessed one of our parents coping with such a loss.
Janice read the lyric before listening and said, “he is right, you’re never really prepared.”
We hope that the memory of your Mama’s smile gives your comfort and that time helps to ease your heartache.

It is a fine production in all aspects.

J&B

Sorry for your loss, my condolences to you and your family. This is a fine tribute to your Mom.

Brian,
very sorry about your loss. I hope that time will soften sharp edges for you.
Wonderful and passionate tribute. Very well composed and produced.

Thank you for sharing.
Misha.

P.S. Music is a good healer too, so don't stop.

Thank you very much for your kind words, Tom.
Much appreciated!

Thank you both for your really nice and comforting words, Andi and Wolfgang.
That means a lot to me.
And you're absolutely right, I wouldn't have thought it, but the song is indeed a kind of therapy and helps.

[ Sorry for the late replies, my life is pretty chaotic these days and I'm just trying to catch up ]

Thank you, Vic, for your kind and supportive words.
Even though it hurts, the beautiful memories will stay in our hearts forever.

Thank you for your kind words, James.
Much appreciated

Thank you very much, Janne, for your kind and positive words.
I really appreciate it.

Thanks a lot, BT.
It gets better from day to day, but there are always those moments when the feelings become overwhelming out of nowhere.
But that's nothing compared to what my dad has to go through each day...

Thank you, Ron, for your kind words.
I really appreciate it!

That is indeed the saddest part.
It's the first close member of my family to be gone, and I (we all) have to learn to deal with it.
Thank you, Marty!

Brian,

First off, I'm very sorry for your loss! I can only hope you find some comfort and healing through using your musical gift! You did an exceptionally good job creating this lovely song! There is a genuine sense of authenticity and emotion in the vocal! God bless!

Take care, TB

Thank you for your kind and comforting words, Brad.
I really appreciate it!

Thank you very much, Deej.
I also think it's amazing how deep emotions can bring out intense songs and intense songs can bring out deep emotions.
We have the best hobby of all.

Thank you for your kind and comforting words, David.
Much appreciated!

Strong and emotionell. Thanks for sharing. When my mom died a few years ago I took the guitar and sat alone playing and crying. Playing guitar have been very good therapy for me the last years.

Thank you very much, Scott.
I really appreciate it!

Thanks a lot for listening and your nice words, Scott C.
Much appreciated!

Thank you Janice, thank you Bud.
I'm glad she always smiles when I dream about her when I sleep.
Good memories are a great thing to have.

Thank you for your kind words, Elliot.
Much appreciated!

Thank you for your kind and comforting words, Misha.
You're absolutely right, music is a great healer when you're sad.
This song was very important to me, but to be honest, I was really scared to start it.

Thank you, Torrey.
It helps a lot to hear your (and others) encouraging and comforting words.
It means a lot to me!

Thank you, Sören.
Crying is good. When I get to the point where I have to cry, I feel much better.
Incredibly sad, but better.

Losing my parents was the most painful thing in my life. Since my wife is younger and my kids are healthy, I'm hopeful (and praying) that I will never feel worse pain than that for the rest of my life. The pain never goes away but it does get better and fond memories eventually can make you smile and laugh. So sorry for your loss. VERY nice tribute. Take care. Greg

Thank you, Greg, for your kind and comforting words.
Much appreciated