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#166849 - 07/24/12 07:13 PM [Off-Topic] Re: I need help again [Re: Pat Marr]
Lawrie Offline
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G'day John,
I haven't piped up before 'cos so many others were already there, but a thought has occurred to me that I think is worth sharing:

I cannot imagine what you are facing or going through, but I do have a good mate who has been alone pretty much all his life. It is terrifying seeing how his personality disintegrates every so often from the sheer loneliness of his life. The reality is that though he craves company he also inhibits it by his behaviour, learned defense responses to hurts I guess.

PLEASE, please don't allow yourself to travel that path. I'm not particularly a "doggie" person, although we do allow ourselves to be owned by a cat, so I can't really comment on the value of getting another dog, but I can advise you to make sure you never allow yourself to disconnect from people around you. I think you already know that as evidenced by your reaching out here, but an online relationship is no substitute for having someone physically close.

You have a real advantage over my mate, he couldn't play a note if his life depended on it, whereas you have a skill that is welcomed by most people - you make music. I can't think of anything better than getting involved in a local group (or ten) of musos and entertaining people.

One group I play with is called "Big Band Therapy", and believe me, therapy it is - both for us and our audiences

Be blessed mate, be shaped but not brought down by your past and present, and look forward to the next adventure.
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#166850 - 07/24/12 07:50 PM [Off-Topic] Re: I need help again [Re: Lawrie]
silvertones Offline
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Quote:

G'day John,
I haven't piped up before 'cos so many others were already there, but a thought has occurred to me that I think is worth sharing:

I cannot imagine what you are facing or going through, but I do have a good mate who has been alone pretty much all his life. It is terrifying seeing how his personality disintegrates every so often from the sheer loneliness of his life. The reality is that though he craves company he also inhibits it by his behaviour, learned defense responses to hurts I guess.

PLEASE, please don't allow yourself to travel that path. I'm not particularly a "doggie" person, although we do allow ourselves to be owned by a cat, so I can't really comment on the value of getting another dog, but I can advise you to make sure you never allow yourself to disconnect from people around you. I think you already know that as evidenced by your reaching out here, but an online relationship is no substitute for having someone physically close.

You have a real advantage over my mate, he couldn't play a note if his life depended on it, whereas you have a skill that is welcomed by most people - you make music. I can't think of anything better than getting involved in a local group (or ten) of musos and entertaining people.

One group I play with is called "Big Band Therapy", and believe me, therapy it is - both for us and our audiences

Be blessed mate, be shaped but not brought down by your past and present, and look forward to the next adventure.



You are right on Lawrie. I see myself sort of able to slip that way. Sort of getting caught up in the blues.I have a couple things I will be doing that I haven't been able to do before:
1.Going to a church(Unity) that I really enjoyed but had to stop because I couldn't leave Lucy home & too hotin the car.
2. There's a local Flea Mkt were musicians get together on Sat & Sun & play.I've played a couple of times and although the music is not quite up to what I'm used to,the people are all really wonderfull. I just separate the two.
3. If I find myself settling in here, remember this is not were I'm from & is sort of alien to me, I will be getting a dog again.I've already been sort of fantasizing about it.Maybe pat's dog and I will be connected.Fate will dictate.
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#166851 - 07/24/12 07:56 PM [Off-Topic] Re: I need help again [Re: silvertones]
Pat Marr Offline
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Maybe pat's dog and I will be connected.Fate will dictate.




John,

I'm not working this week. Feel free to stop by and see the dog and visit. I'll send my address and phone # by PM in case you want to do that. No pressure, though. If you visit it doesn't mean you need to take the dog. You're always welcome here under any circumstances and at any time. Likewise, I understand if you have other things to do. Its an open invitation, not an RSVP kind of thing.

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#166852 - 07/24/12 09:28 PM [Off-Topic] Re: I need help again [Re: Pat Marr]
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John, i feel for you, my friend. it has been a rather difficult road for you. It is so great that so many folks here care about your well being. What a great community. Props to all of you, and your kind thoughts for a friend in need. It is so cool that you have recognized that you have friend here that not only listen, but share their hearts with you.

I gotta say music really is the language of love, and not just in the romantic way, but in real true brotherly love.

Play a set of music tonight! and we are all singing along!
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#166853 - 07/24/12 10:38 PM [Off-Topic] Re: I need help again [Re: Robh]
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Well said Robh. It is a thing to behold observing so many here reach out with not only heartfelt emotional support and advice for John but also with schemes to meet up with him. Says a lot about ya'll.

Terry
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#166854 - 07/24/12 11:55 PM [Off-Topic] Re: I need help again [Re: MarioD]
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John, I just want you to know that I have been thinking of and praying for you.

1Peter 5:7 Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.

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#166855 - 07/25/12 08:07 AM [Off-Topic] Re: I need help again [Re: Curmudgeon]
yjoh Offline
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Loc: Australia
Hi John,

I went through the same heart wrenching decision a few years back and it still hurts to remember. I read the posts yesterday and I'm so sorry but it has taken me until today to be able to say how sorry I am, without breaking down myself.

I haven't as yet been able to get a new dog but when the time comes, I think I would like to give an older dog or rescue dog a new lease on life.

My music has gotten me through so much and I'm sure yours will too. It takes time but the grief does lessen.

It's good to know there is so much support for you. I hope it bring some comfort.
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#166856 - 07/25/12 11:45 AM [Off-Topic] Re: I need help again [Re: Lawrie]
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Big Band Therapy. I like that one, Lawry. Music is perfect therapy because it's as complex as you want to make it. You can never perfect your playing and then say ok, I've done it all, time to move on. It's great to play with other people because they motivate you do work at it so you can play your parts properly and not mess them up.

John, that sounds like a nice little trip for you, to go visit Pat. Do it asap, I kinda doubt it's like your days are all booked up for the next month, ya know? Let us know what happens.

Bob
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#166857 - 07/25/12 03:15 PM [Off-Topic] Re: I need help again [Re: yjoh]
silvertones Offline
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Hi John,

I went through the same heart wrenching decision a few years back and it still hurts to remember. I read the posts yesterday and I'm so sorry but it has taken me until today to be able to say how sorry I am, without breaking down myself.

I haven't as yet been able to get a new dog but when the time comes, I think I would like to give an older dog or rescue dog a new lease on life.

My music has gotten me through so much and I'm sure yours will too. It takes time but the grief does lessen.

It's good to know there is so much support for you. I hope it bring some comfort.



Thank you for that understanding of where I'm at and why I'll not get another dog in haste. Losing my wife and my four legged child,I have no others,has left me in a fragile state of mind were no important decisions should be made.
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#166858 - 07/25/12 03:22 PM [Off-Topic] Re: I need help again [Re: jazzmammal]
silvertones Offline
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Big Band Therapy. I like that one, Lawry. Music is perfect therapy because it's as complex as you want to make it. You can never perfect your playing and then say ok, I've done it all, time to move on. It's great to play with other people because they motivate you do work at it so you can play your parts properly and not mess them up.

John, that sounds like a nice little trip for you, to go visit Pat. Do it asap, I kinda doubt it's like your days are all booked up for the next month, ya know? Let us know what happens.

Bob



It would be however it won't happen for awhile for a few reasons:
1.I can't even go to the neighbors for dinner without getting so jangled that I had to leave after an hour.
2.I don't have the proper setup for his pup & I'm not ready so it would break my heart to see him.Like the picture does every time I look at it.
3.His wife is dying of cancer and I'm sure not ready to see that again.

Pat and I most certainly will get together at some point when he moves on to part 2 of his situation.
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#166859 - 07/25/12 04:13 PM [Off-Topic] Re: I need help again [Re: silvertones]
GHinCH Offline
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Registered: 01/08/10
Posts: 1486
Loc: Schleswig-Holstein, Germany
Hi John,

whatever you choose to do, do it.
Your neighbors will understand when you need to leave for sentimental reasons.
Your friends will understand when your eyes start to get wet.

After my first wife's passing I dedided to live "with the past" not "in the past". It is painful at times to be alone, but there is also a sort of new freedom. Memories come up front and go away again, they haunt you at times when you don't have use for them. The first year is the hardest, because you have to go through every activity alone for the first time.

The best therapy is probably: Do what you want, when you want it to do.

I wish you all the strengh to have when you need it to ride the emotional roller coaster.

Guido
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#166860 - 07/25/12 04:29 PM [Off-Topic] Re: I need help again [Re: silvertones]
Don Gaynor Offline
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May I speak to the power of Music Therapy? It is rapidly becoming recognized in the medical community for it's powerful healing potential on the human psyche. I am the unofficial music therapist here in my nursing home and I have seen it work countless times.

Well stated, Guido!


Edited by Don Gaynor (07/25/12 04:33 PM)

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