Originally Posted By: 90 dB
Actually, John misunderstood my post. I, however, did not misinterpret this comment:


“....I'll ask, as mayne (many) others have....”

“....are you just an arrogant SOB?”


Seems pretty clear to me man. Such an epithet denotes regard? Curious.


I see that as more the natural result of misinterpretation than it is a declaration of contempt.

I think its fair to say that most people answer "in kind"... if they think they are being challenged, they are inclined to reply with a challenge.

I think its significant that John did NOT say "you ARE an arrogant SOB"...
he phrased it in a conditional way that clearly implied that if you meant what he THOUGHT you meant, that only an arrogant SOB would say such a thing... but he left it open in question form so you had a chance to clarify (which you did)

Once it was obvious that there was miscommunication at work, he thanked you for your TRUE intent. IMO, that's communication at its best... people qualifying statements and adjusting their responses as the meaning becomes clear.

I also think that in an environment like this, the best indicator of a person's intent is the sum of their communication. You and John have both shown yourselves to be friendly and helpful guys over and over again. That should count for something when trying to decide what a person means.

But even then, we all have bad days. Even saints can get snippy when too many things are going wrong at the same time. So, its not a bad idea to qualify questionable comments just to make sure the occasional comment wasn't intended in the worst of several possible ways.

You and John are both good guys and valued contributors to the forum. You are both well liked and appreciated for what you each bring to the equation. Little miscommunications happen. It would be unnecessary and a shame to read anything else into it.



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