Nope I used the correct "here" in the title, because I am here to learn today from this. I'm enlisting your help please.

I've heard A LOT this week about my attitude on forums. Personally, I don't get it...as in, seriously, don't understand it. I've been told I'm a troll, it's been said I have posted any songs, I've had people wonder if I have any musical ability, I had people say I think I'm God-like and I have no right to say anything...just...yikes.

So I looked at the comments I made in two posts today.

Samuel has a thread about writing/producing music that sounds like something on the charts. Then he was kind enough to provide the a chart for reference. Cool guy. Anyway, Herb had made a statement that he didn't want to do rap and he didn't see any country. I know Herb well enough, as I think we all do, to know Herb would know a country song if he saw it. I was not questioning Herb AT ALL. I would bet he knows that too. I didn't want people thinking there wasn't any on the charts provided. Here was my comment...

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These are the comments that get me labeled a troll...

Country songs on that chart :

29-Heaven/Kane Brown
38-You Make It Easy/Jason Aldean
62-Most People Are Good/Luke Bryan
63-Tequila/Dan + Shay
67-Singles You Up/Jordan Davis
68-One Number Away/Luke Combs
72-Babe/Sugland Featuring Taylor Swift
80-I Lived It/Blake Shelton
82-Get Along/Kenny Chesney
84-UpDown/Morgan Wallen Featuring Florida Georgia Line
85-The Long Way/Brett Eldredge
86-For The First Time/Darius Rucker
88-Woman,Amen/Dierks Bentley
95-Everything's Gonna Be Alright/David Lee Murphy & Kenny Chesney
96-Cry Pretty/Carrie Underwood

But then again, what would I know.

Herb, to be clear this has nothing to do with you. I know damn well you would know those are country songs.

Is what rubs people the wrong way the "These are the comments that get me labeled a troll...?" or "But then again, what would I know?" I'm thinking so; but don't know. They do seem to have a bit of sting to them.

Maybe just "I just took a quick look and saw these. Hope it helps." Better approach? I'm hoping so; but all ears on suggestions. OR is it still condescending with "Hope it helps" as in I think I'm God for knowing this? lol, that would be sad, but hey, I'm curious how people take what I say.

From a different post :

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I fear people listen to a few and give up listening. I think that may be part of the problem with people tuning out because of what they don't like. They miss out on something new they would.


Too judge-y? Offensive? To me, it was just my opinion of a fear I have. I love music and love for others to experience it. If I can help them to experience more, I'm for that. If it becomes and argument, not so much.

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And that's where limitation starts, and learning ends, closing your mind.


Are these the "thinking I'm God" statements people find condescending? Again, it's just my opinion; and I'm not sure why it rubs people so wrong. I feel I should be allowed to have an opinion, which I get I do. NO ONE has asked me to leave the forum; as much as some seem to hate what I stand for. So, there's that. smile

Listen, I'm open to ideas on how I can approach things differently. I feel I get a disproportionate amount of push back on my ideas over others because of misunderstanding of my intent. I do see people present there ideas MUCH better than I do. Same point, different reaction from the crew. I'm not a people pleaser; but I'm not an arse (contrary to popular belief here) either so I have been watching. Then I thought, "hell, just ask."

The one thing I do understand is, it's not what you say, it's what others hear. I am trying to learn how to do that better. Give me time; and help me out. You don't owe it to me, but I'm asking smile

I'll end with, to anyone I offended. Sorry. I do have friends on here that I think would vouch I'm actually not a guy intent on disagreeing for the sake of disagreeing. I'm not going to ask them to though...so to my friends, don't worry. lol



-HereToStay

**Almost forgot, I started a new thread so as hopefully not to derail the other threads that I made the comments in. Hopefully that is will be the case. L.e.a.r.n.i.n.g. smile





Last edited by HearToLearn; 05/02/18 05:18 AM.
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