I use something similar to what Steve mentioned re: Sonarworks. I have the Waves Abbey Road Studio 3 with AKG headphones. If I think I got the mix right, it is great to tell me if I really did it, and is reliable--to me, anyway. It usually tells me to turn up the drums. smile

No matter what I do though, I trust my meters, not my ears, and have numerous track templates and board templates for acoustics, electrics, drums, bass on and on, with many plugins tweaked for each instrument. I have found that meters rarely lie. When I get everything where I think it should be I run it through Abbey Road to hear how it all turned out. If it sounds great there, it sounds great on speakers. The last four songs I posted on the forum were done this way.

https://www.waves.com/plugins/abbey-road-studio-3#presenting-the-waves-abbey-road-studio-3-plugin