a further point to rob's comment...there is no time-limit on mourning, nor are there any shortcuts. take whatever time necessary to get your heart and mind totally mended. it may seem impossible to you today but, in time, they will heal. the email address in my profile is correct and current so i sincerely invite your communication with me at any time, day or night. there is much comfort in learning bible truths about death and the condition of the dead but a detailed discussion here would be offensive to some and contrary to forum rules. i can't speak so can't invite your phone calls but i am usually up quite late so i invite your instant messages well into the wee hours. the mp3 recording that i linked you to via pm will be of great encouragement in your grief. if you have trouble downloading it please give me your email address and i will email it to

this thread confirms beyond doubt that you are loved and cared about. that speaks volumes about you as an individual as well as a loving, caring husband. for my part, i am very proud of you and happy to call you my friend.

i like the idea of a memorial tune for your wife. she would have loved knowing that you are being so well thought of. i will be thrilled to contribute in any way that i can.

sincerely,

don and joanne gaynor