As of now, I think I solved the problem

in the opt > midi setting >

I unchecked the use VST/Dxi ( I really dont remember ever checking it in the first place?)

right now the settings are

no midi/soundinput
midi output drive-- microsoft GS wavetale synth latency is 197


I havent had chance to go through all the songs and check but the 5 I did are all good,
I think this solved it

thanks for all the feedback