Actually Pat, my wife and I are now going on 15 year, and both were married before so we both know good/ bad, happy/sad, right wrong. We took our time, did not rush things, did not live together. Build a real friendship first. Then start a lasting journey. It hasn't been easy at time we're both older, and more set in our ways.

We have a personal contract, we don't go to bed mad, we talk things out, and we try to put the others interest and needs first.

I was skeptical, but nothing ventured nothing gained. I love the scriptural thought, "the one isolating himself is seeking his own selfish long" I just don't do well alone. I enjoy sharing the joys of life with someone.

Oh and Eddie, I am not calling you selfish. Sounds like you have been through a lot my friend, and sometimes solitude brings peace of mind, especially after turmoil. But it is the ingredients of song writing

Pat 38 years is amazing. I envy that history, and legacy. That is something to be proud of, and hard to repeat.

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