Been there done that. She took the kids 6 and 5 and I didn't see them for 3 years. I sent presents, birthdays, xmas. Sent back, refused. Then I resent by UPS, wrapped over the previous wrapping. Then Fed Ex over the UPS refusal.

At 11 and 12 years old finally I got to see them. Paid for plane tickets. Their Mom said I didn't love them so I sent no presents. I brought them out of the storage room and they unwrapped layer after layer where her handwriting said REFUSED.

She let me visit them in Sault Ste. Marie that year. Asked me what I was getting them. A video game. I arrived with it, 8 hour drive from hell. They unwrap it. Look at each other. "Mom sold the TV yesterday, said we couldn't afford it." I took them to the store and bought a TV too, and a stand, and installed it in their bedroom..

3 months later they called wanting plane tickets. A social worker told them they cold move in with me.

The court ordered her to pay me child support. They lived with me from the teen years until they got an apartment.

I think I loaded the XX guage and put it in the trunk 5 times. Drive 50 miles, come to my senses and come home.

She is an RN/head nurse, head case. I don't talk to her, despite her newfound desire to do so, due to the grandchild. Tough.

There is no level playing field. She took all my money, ran up credit cards, I slept in the Olds hotel for 2 weeks broke, no cash. The olds had a leather back seat, and I almost fit. Got paid on a Thursday morning, was at work, at 5 went to the bank, NOT a dime in either account, both credit cards maxed. Borrowed 50 bucks from a buddy.

I was her husband #1. She's on #5 now. #2 beat the kids and her. So did #3. I on the other hand pick up spiders and put them out doors. Once killed a bat with a tennis racket at work though!

John Conley
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