I can hear that things aren't right.
So where I'm going with this is, that has been a major hurdle for me. My wife had breast cancer over the last 3 years, we have 6 kids, and I work a full time+ job. Thankfully I work for me, so I can work with my schedule a little bit. I just really don't feel I have the time to be trial and error everything to learn mixing.
Prayers for your Wife, your children, and you.
I noted your post about mixing the other day. I've recently gone through a similar...assessment. I want to release my songs on Spotify and Songtradr - do what others here, like Janice and Bud have done - so I dropped some bucks on a couple online mixing and mastering courses. I paid a mix engineer a small fee to critique my last mix/song, which I had posted in the Showcase, forum members had commented too. I made some adjustments and sent that mix to a couple of online mastering engineers. One of them wanted to re-mix the song and the other broke it out into stems, so essentially a re-mix also. Honestly, all of that was uncomfortable, not to mention somewhat costly. I did learn. Whether I'm better for it remains to be heard:)
Like you, I know what sound I'm after, I'm just not very skilled at finding it. And it takes me a long time to even get in the ballpark. I work full-time too, and so yeah, finding time and being in the groove is a challenge.
Forum members will help you, but you may want to consider hiring people too. I went to
Sound Better to contact a mix engineer. He definitely made the tracks sound better, but the process was difficult for me. I want to do it myself. Stubborn I guess, and I like producing my songs.
Have you ever tried downloading free tracks to practice mixing on? I've done that a few times. You can post your mixes and get feedback. Here's a good site run by Mike Senior
Cambridge Music .
Thanks for your post. You're not alone.
Scott