Had the same issue - thought a bodhran would be right for a particular song but alll the styles were too fussy and complicated.

Not exactly a solution but i used the drum grid editor in RealBand to create a rhythm using tom toms. sounds ok for just a simple percission track. sounds more like a cajon but as that is a common percussion instrument in folk bands it sounds ok for my 3/4 folk song that i originally wanted a bodghran for