Andrew, you've set up the EQ after the compressor which is usually good but sometimes stuff makes compressors overreact and other stuff.
Yes, BIAB drums "stems" may be a way around the problem but there aren't anywhere near enough of them and some have serious problems like o/heads not being in stereo so it's not always the right option.
I usually spend most of my time taking the click out of BIAB kicks.
Snare usually has to high energy spots - up with the "crack" and down with the meat.
If you add another instance of ReaEq, click off all the other FX, and set the EQ to notch or band pass then narrow that you can sweep across the snare as it plays and isolate the two main areas then address the in your main instance of ReaEq.
Then remove the sweep iterations. Lastly I'd suggest gently addressing the hot spots before the comp as well...oh & check how things are with the "limit output" bock unclicked in the compressor...you've effectively, two limiters on the drums.
I'll check the real drum you're talking about & respond if I find anything useful.

Cheers
rayc
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